Making Friends...

[Panthress]

Trigger requested something last night of Tin and I, that we politely declined... and the more I thought about it, I think perhaps my thoughts should be elaborated.
Some might consider me stubborn, willful, or even hard-headed. Probably true. No one has ever been able to tell me what to do; I do what I want despite what anyone tells me --- case in point; Tin tells me NOT to charge a T with 3 bullets, I will just to prove I can. That's just me. He's very similar, which is why we get along!
On the same wavelength -- I have never made friends quickly or easily. I'm not especially social, I prefer to do my own thing and maybe poke my nose over the proverbial fence once in a while to see what's out there. I suppose friends come to me, and are absorbed into my daily life at their own pace.
I have made many friends on CS. Some cOd, some not. These very different souls make the game environment fun, satisfying, and even educational at times. I would stand by any one of them and viciously defend them like the Mama Panthress I am. I have never chosen one friend over another.
I respect those above me in cOd --- they are awesome guys and gals and I think that I am friends with most of them. I stand by them as friends, and truly hope that they can understand that I will not turn my back on them, or anyone, on someone's request.
Friends are just stuck with me! :D

[dingleberryz]

Wow Panthress!!
I totally agree with you! cOd is a very important part of me now.. Crazy huh? We're like the family you get to choose hahaha.. But yeah.. I used to not be as social either but slowly as you get to know more people you open up more. It gets easier and easier, you learn so much more about yourself first and foremost. You also learn more about people, and that there some GREAT people out there that if you never reach out, you'll never know what could have happened! Now I am curious what Trigger had asked since you started off with that! But you don't need to disclose that if you don't want to.. I just wanted to let you know I feel ya Mama!! :)

[GoldenFox]

Well said Panthress.
Sometimes friends do things that you may not agree with or like. That doesn't mean you cast them into the dark. You need to stand by them. That is a positive trait to have and unfortunately most people don't share it. However, I will also say that sometimes these so called "friends" take advantage of these loyal people... Just make sure that isn't happening. Most of us in here are good people. No one deserves to be taken advantage of. :)

[tamski_gurl]

well said. <3 all mwahs!

[Trigger]

This very same "friend" has been a friend for over a year and that is why I have to part ways with him and I only parted ways after I got concrete evidence because I still didn't believe it at first...that he could do such a thing and so let me elaborate too Panthress that it is with very deep regret that I have to break ties with someone I always considered an online friend and I sure as hell don't make friends IRL...so that is why I respect your opinion but when it comes to CSS and rule breakers..friends or not...a rule breaker is a rule breaker and there has been many COD and nonCOD rule breakers and admins who have come and gone and will continue to do so.

So before you judge my opinion please understand it comes from facts and not just a matter of opinion. Also the reason I asked you is because it was sent down by the senior admin staff because one thing you may not realize, our servers can get compromised through our friend's list and that's why rule breakers need to be removed. I'm not saying you can't talk to him elsewhere because that's up to you but not everyone understands all the various forms of breaking the rules some minor and the worst kind and the closer to home the rule breaker, the more division it stirs because you build a trust with someone like me over more than a year and then your world just shatters. The worst thing in the world is to be used because your heart is so big and you want to help out out others no matter what others may think or feel and I am tired of being taken advantage of.

Ask any of the senior admins how breaking the rules works and they will tell you why you need to remove someone off your friends list.

My world shattered Panthress...truth be told...I don't say my feelings in public ever but this is a one time exception....now I cannot say WHY this shattered my world but if I could then you may understand my point of view better and the point of view an admin must take regardless of how they feel inside. Admins must be dispassionate and judge based on facts not personal feelings of liking or not liking someone.

[SloOldVet]

Pantress, I enjoy gaming with you and consider you "family" and closely observe your posts and act on them when necessary. I'm sure we all appreciate your efforts to alert us to situations that arise.

But, I stand with Trigger on this one. I know the reason of the request.

I too was quite disappointed with the situation to say the least. But from the admin side of it, this was a severe breach of our servers and we are trying to undo the damage and want to make sure it does not happen again. I wish you knew how much time, money, and effort goes into our servers.

An example:

A week or so ago, someone posted about a possible hacking attempt. This person disabled our admin abilities on all our servers to a point where we could be in game with the hacker and have no ability to ban him. Even after he left and I had his info from "status", there was nothing I could do. I felt we were losing control of our servers.

I sent a text to Jack about it and my cell rang about 2 minutes later he was on the phone. I explained the situation and we immediately went to work to repair the damage. We spent at least 30 minutes on it. Damage from only 1 hacker.

Meanwhile, Randy's entire staff at work, were waiting for him for a meeting he had called. All this while they are "on the clock". It isn't cheap here in LA, but he also knew the serious position we were in. He chose to make his people wait, and devote his precious time to our servers. In my many years, I find Randy to be a "one of a kind" and when it comes to the needs of our "family", you can't find better. He has always responded to any request I have made to him and I have great respect for his efforts for all of us. Same goes for Coroner and Payo,

So when Jack/Coroner sent word out that actions were required to keep our servers secure, we did as asked.

This one time, please cut Trigger some slack because it could have easily been me that asked.

Friends are friends, but if hard evidence was found that I was abusing my rights, I'd be gone in a New York minute. We admin's all know this.

So I just hope you at least understand where she was coming from, and also from the technical side of things.

Please think about it, my friend, Pathress.

[818_Jasmine]

well said momma! I know im new to the cOd family but i do consider all of you my second family! Love you guys!

[Panthress]

Oh, I never thought badly of Trigger for asking; I completely understand that as an admin, she had the duty (painful as it obviously was) to do as required. I would never doubt her integrity, or Slo's...you've always proven yourselves "good guys" in my book. And it sounds like you both understand my dilemna, which is a bit comforting in this situation.